Thursday, January 23, 2014

Moving forward... PMA

 I'm the first person to admit 1000% that I have made awful decisions and have been one of the biggest assholes alive at times in my past. The reality of this and eventually "growing up" made me see things for what they were. While completely terrible and regretful they gave me a choice today. I could let those define me and wear that "scarlet letter" for the rest of my life, or learn from them and change to become better than that. I chose the latter of those two decisions.
 I decided on a life filled with a more PMA(Positive Mental Attitude) base and philosophy. My wife and son were huge factors in this for me. I wanted to be a better husband, father, son, and human being in this world. I wasn't concerned about public perception of my new outlook, as it has never influenced me before. Rather, a feeling of peace about the travels and interactions on a daily level. Started seeing the things The Buddha had taught over 3 thousand years ago.
 This "transition" hasn't been flawless by any means. I have had my slight road rage moments or snarky response to a negative comment online(I know, very childish). I do however take moments to think about my reactions and try to flip them to another view. Take that brief moment to "feel" the response to the situation and identify the negativity in it. I am however human and filled with faults, and there are the moments that slip through, to which I actually do revisit to learn from. At the end of it though, I continue to learn and work on it.
 I stated before that I basically didn't do this for the court of public opinion. There are people in my past, including a family member that still have me in the shadow of the person I once was. I suppose that will never change for them and how they feel. I'm not going to bang a drum for all to hear, that I changed my ways or anything. We all know actions, consistent actions will ALWAYS over power any words. I will keep progressing(stumbles and all) and living a PMA lifestyle. At the end of the day, this is about me and ultimately for me, not the shadows of my past. I don't fault the people of my past for their opinions, they were well deserved.
 There is a bonus to this new mindset, the ripple effect it brings. We as humans tend to mirror the emotion of the ones we interact with. Which in a lot of cases carries on to others around us and the ones on the "receiving" end. It becomes that ripple or domino effect. I remember the movie Pay it Forward and the impact of positive influences in the world and how far that ripple can go. We(most people I know) talk about the hate in this world today. Whether it's Religion, politics, lifestyle, or race has brought forth such venomous hate and disdain. I'm not going to change the world, but what if enough people in the world took a different approach and had the ripple effect? Far worse things have been attempted by the human race.
 I'm not preaching my choices for anyone to adhere to in their life. I'm telling you about the what, why, and how this has changed me. I have benefited from a happier home to daily friendly interactions to my overall health. Thank you for taking the time to read my ramblings, create a great day.

Thursday, January 9, 2014

Carnival barker sales pitches and reality

 Recent events have reminded me of an old lesson I learned about sales over 20 years ago. The louder and more competition negative one is, the more they are trying to make you not see. If you have to resort to name calling or bashing your competition, the more your trying to evoke emotional buying decisions and less informed ones. That becomes dangerous for long term image and satisfaction when the warts or details rise up. People fall for it all the time from bad car sales to tech giants convincing you to pay 3x a product value because in reality it was shiny. There is always details or "fine print" these type of carnival barkers leave out, they hope you don't notice before the emotional high they created wears off. All I'm saying is be wary of these techniques and the impulse jump on to that band wagon. History has shown these results over and over again that even prompted the phrase "If it's too good to be true, it mostly likely is".
 I'm kind of old school in my approach to actual honest customer service. In return I've NEVER had a store lose money year over year and always sat near the top in sales. Our customer loyalty was the best, because the way we treated them. People grow tired of the used car sales/Politician/carnival barker techniques, along with name calling/bad mouthing the competition. If you are truly better, you can promote those advantages without focusing on the mud slinging. In the end, I'm just recommending you not jump to the emotional knee jerk buy, but level headed decision about the fine print and pros/cons to be happy with that purchase in the long run and no buyer's remorse.

Sunday, January 5, 2014

A game of life

 After accepting a major defeat for my life long favorite NFL team yesterday and clarity this morning(aka coffee), I found meaning in an old cliche. In this game known as life or _____ sport is like life, are both examples of this. Football in general kind of scream the point a little louder with the smaller amount of games played. Things like Baseball, Hockey, Skateboarding(no season), Bball, "soccer", etc that have longer seasons carry the lessons from game to game.
 Getting to the point of it all, is the emotional highs of expectations, wonder, great plays, and wins in one package. Crashing the lows of frustration and for some actual anger of losses, "bad calls", slumps, and even seen tragedies. So, let's break down the cliche into some sort of format.

  Offseason/preseason is about a new year/season and preparation. We set up our goals, plans, and expectations for the new year. This is the time for laying the ground work of achieving these short and long term goals. Preparing the the groundwork for that success and giving ourselves the realistic best chances we can for it. From people we add or subtract around us to the steps/actions needed to achieve our goals. Creating our environment for a better year.

 Season is the toughest and most emotionally taxing part of the journey. It's about the grind and actual implementation of your plans(game plan) to conquer each obstacle along the way. Adjusting to failures and flawed plans, because NOTHING ever goes as planned. Setting a new adjusted plan for each new hurdle coming(game). How do you handle the defeats/failures and the emotional valley that hits afterward? Do you let it define you, motivate you, or make you quit? Do the improbable wins and euphoric highs give your ego too much float and create arrogance, or simply build confidence for the next road block? The mental toughness, resolve, and ability to adjust to those dark days.

  Postseason/home stretch is about the final steps to your goals. They are in sight and just out of reach, but there. The emotional tax is greater and far more intense and exaggerated. Last chance efforts to grab that brass ring or scrap it and start over next year.

This is all kind of brushed over to make it digestible or bite size to help reach a point, somewhere along the way. I know this isn't any revolutionary idea or thought process, but rather a reminder how things can emulate others.